Rumours, we got to hate them. SERIOUSLY.

Rumours rumours and rumours... Lately, I often find it so hard to not be part of a gossiping group. I am not saying that I gossip lesser or more than others, but sometimes, I do find myself trapped in a conversation which gossips. Especially after reading the following story, I really despite gossiping...

RUMOURS

After several years of marriage Jenny and Peter were still deeply in love. They had two beautiful children, a lovely house in a good neighbourhood, a nice car and with Peter's salary Jenny was able to stay at home and look after the children. They were truly an inspiration to all people. All, but their grumpy, jealous neighbour.

One morning as Peter was leaving the driveway and Jenny blew him a kiss, the neighbour watched in utter jealousy. She needed to stop this happiness. An hour later she met a friend for tea. This friend loved to gossip and the grumpy neighbour decided to use this friend of her as a tool. "Did you hear about Peter and his affair..." she started. After a while she ended: "Poor Jenny and the kids... if only they knew."

Needless to say, the gossip story spread like a wildfire throughout the community. The women's smiles towards Jenny turned into pity-stares. One day while shopping in the local supermarket a shopper approached Jenny to tell her about the gossip story: "Is it true that your husband is having an affair?" In an instant, Jenny's "perfect life" was crushed.

For the next few days Jenny cried continuously as she tried to hide her hurt from Peter. Depression started to consume Jenny's life as the joy was squashed from her body.

One night as Peter drove into the driveway he saw that none of the house lights were on. "Hello, I'm home..." No answer. No aromatic food scent met him as he walked into the home. No smiling faces as his wife and children ran towards him. Everything was dark and cold. An evil feeling surrounded the house.

In the basement of the house Peter made the shocking discovery. Jenny had hung herself and the kids. The depression had taken its toll. On the table Peter found the suicide note: "I couldn't endure the shame and disgrace of your actions anymore. Now you are free to do whatever you want to..." Two days later Peter heard about the lie that shattered his life.

This story made me realize how easy a gossip story can destroy a life.

"What dainty morsels rumours are - but they sink deep into one's heart"
Proverbs 18:8

"Those who love to talk will experience the consequences, for the tongue can kill or nourish life."
Proverbs 18:21

What is your reaction whenever you hear a gossip story? Do you delight yourself in it - especially if it involves your enemies? Or do you decide to stop it and rather say something positive about the person? Can I encourage you today to change the gossip story into an uplifting, positive story? You might just save a life.

Father God, thank you that I can ask You to place a guard in front of my mouth. Help me to speak positive words about the people around me. I pray this in the Name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

**this story is extracted from Spiritual Food

I know that sometime is very hard for us to draw a line between rumours and just sharing our thoughts with people. However, what does it really mean to not gossip? A friend shared that, if is not her story to tell then she will not talk bout it. I strongly agree with her, but what if you wanted to know how that person is doing but did not got the chance to talk to them? Is it wrong to just care bout the person? my suggestion is that if you genuinely care for that person, take actions to it by talking to the person personally instead of asking others, and not just for the sake of knowing.

ps: I find that silent treatment is the best option to counter gossips in a group =) hope that helps!

relationships

Was talking to A bout relationships between a guy and girl. Two good friends of mine broke up recently and I was also told that another couple might resolve to break up as well. It kinda freaks me out a bit. Fortunately A was there to pick me up out of my blues again. Guess he just knows me too well that talking bout people breaking up, after putting in so much effort and time, will really shaken my faith. Honestly I might seem strong and knows what I want for my relationship, actually I am very weak and afraid all the time. Afraid that it might not work, afraid of being betrayed again, afraid that this might not be what God had plan for me; there are just so much fear within me. Then again, like A said it, there are also couples out there that had gone through a lot and they are still growing strong after all these years. If God wants it to work, it will work out eventually. There should nothing for us to be worry about. So yeah, I guess relationships can come and goes when you least expect it to be... but at the very least, we can be sure that our relationship with God will last for eternity =)

Jumping into conclusion

Have ever felt like you judged a book, a situation or a person too soon? Or rather, how would you feel if some one made a really hasty assumption on you, way before they know any thing about you? I know I been through both of them, and is totally not cool at all!

I was lectured this afternoon for having lunch too often over at E place. You see I may have been over for lunch, average of twice a week, but I did not went over every single day! But the thing is that, this person did not even know how often I went over and automatically assumed that I am acting as though I am leeching E's food! arghhh... so not fair =.= and btw, I am only stealing his instant noodles! and that is not even a proper lunch to begin with...

patient patient.. explain explain...

@ Kai Ferng in Dunners @

I met Kai Ferng back in 2007, where we were working together in Just Life. Just Life is a health promoting shop that sells lots of healthy, organic food. I was glad to be part of the team that runs one of their branch in the Gardens, KL. Back then, Kai Ferng had already started working there for quite a while. He is always looking after me like a big brother. I still remember all those times that where he shares with me how much he wanted to see the whales. He even took up scuba diving course for it. It was his dream, and now, he achieve it. I am proud of you, Kai Ferng! (^.^)

He came here on a work & travel visa, it lasted for bout 6 months. It was a pretty hard, solid six months. It was hard to find a job in NZ, there was this whole month where he could not find a job at all and living on noodles alone. aiks (>.<) "You need a lot of luck. Some people is lucky to go into a farm or orchard that is hiring and get hired instantly. Some are not, like my case" he said. Things do got better the following months where he found a job in a factory and saved up enough to travel again =) Towards the end of his journey in NZ, he came down to Dunedin for a visit.

at Dunedin's train station

Baldwin Street~ lol, he was sweating like no one's business by the time we reached the top.



Signal Hill~



St Clair~

the BBH he stayed in =) LOL, I did not believe at first, till I see the sign board.

He left on Wednesday morning, heading up to CHCH, before leaving NZ for good on the 15th May. It was great seeing old friends again. Sigh, missing friend back home now...

Be still and know that He is God.

⁶Nearby stood six stone water jars, the kind used by the Jews for ceremonial washing, each holding from twenty to thirty gallons.

⁷Jesus said to the servants, "Fill the jars with water"; so they filled them to the brim.

Six stone of water; God made men on the 6th day.

water used for ceremonial washing; dirty, difficulty times, sufferings, pains, troubles times

filled them to the brim: it all filled up to a point where we cannot take in any more

⁸Then he told them, "Now draw some out and take it to the master of the banquet." They did so, ⁹and the master of the banquet tasted the water that had been turned into wine.

John 2: 6-9

water turn into wine; a miracle happened.

God will wait until the point where is impossible for any thing to happen to perform miracle, so do wait patiently for God's timing. Be still and know that He is God.

distraction needed

Distraction is bad when some one is trying to tell you something serious
Distraction is bad when you are trying to finish your assignment
Distraction is bad when you are going to have exam in 2 days time
Distraction is bad when you wanted to accomplish the dream that you had for ages

but Distraction is good when you try to get over a broken heart. It keeps you away from all those sword piercing heart pain, sleepless night, insecurity, loveless times, uncertainty, loneliness, sadness, joyless, solemn, misery... it is no longer bad but good...

I miss Bubu ~

the amazing girl with an amazing attitude

There was three friend having lunch together at a local Chinese restaurant, one guy and two girl. It was very crowded that day, no one seems to care about what's going on around them. Suddenly the guy spoke: "Look. Can someone please go over and tell the lady how to poke the straw into the drink?". The other two friend looked over their shoulder. It was a Kiwi, elderly lady who is trying to peel of the plastic cover of her cup of bubble tea. Clearly, she has no idea of what she is suppose to do. One of the girl responded casually, "maybe she just like to peel it off to drink?". But the other girl did not say any thing. Having see what was happening, she stood up and walked over to the other table where the old lady was seated. She asked her politely if she is aware that the plastic cover do not have to be peel off. The lady looked at her blankly. Then, she showed the lady how to poke the straw into the drink quickly so that it will not spilled. The lady was really thankful of what the girl had taught her, cause she tried really hard to get a sip of that drink, and the cover is so hard for her to peel it off. Happily, the girl then walked back to her table of friends, who wished that they could have done the same.


There are so many times in the past where I could have just get my ass of the chair and help someone, instead of blabbering all about it. Today, I wanna make a change. I wanna take a step, even if is small, to bring some changes into other people's life; and not just talk about it.

So, if you were to be one of those 3 friends, which one would you be?

The one who notices but not do any thing about it,
the one who know but just talk instead of taking actions,
or the one who don't say any thing but take immediate action to it?